For some reason I’ve met a lot of young folks recently – people entering highschool, starting college and beginning their first internships. A few of these folks surprised me by asking me, the homeless unemployed traveller for advice.
Caught off-guard, I’ve been giving some really crap advice – but having been in the same position, anxious and afraid, some time ago, I gave it some thought and tried to come up with some decent life advice.
Here are ideas I’ve picked up and try to live by them everyday. I have them written down in a notebook I keep on my person:
- “The things you must always ask your self:
Does this need to be said?
Does this need to be said by me?
Does this need to be said by me now?” -Craig FergusonListen to others.
Learn to accept silence.
Shutting up and listening often lets you have the most amazing conversations
2. “It’s not like you have any dignity or anything like that come onnnnn” -Yessi
Do the things you want and push outside your comfort zone.
When in need for a courage boost, I call upon the words of my favorite 4 foot tall psychopathic Chinese designer/friend to give me courage.
When we fail, the consequences are never as catastrophic as we imagine.
3. “Reduce situations.” -SAM
SAM was a computer program designed by one of my professor in the late 80’s to understand human emotions. If you told SAM how you felt about a something, it would breakdown your situation to its logical and emotional elements.
Studying SAM taught me to step back and look at a difficult situations like a computer – separating the logical and emotional aspects of a situation.
Sometimes pure logic should define action. Other times you follow your heart. Regardless, understanding emotion and logic separately helps you make better decisions.
4. “People never get the roses while they can still smell em’” -Kanye West
Share your compliments.
Ms.Cowell, My highschool public speaking teacher asked us to write a eulogy for a loved one, reminding us that “people forget that eulogies aren’t just for the dead”. This moment stuck in my mind – how often do we take the time to let people know how great they are?
Giving random complements is scary because it’s uncommon – but this rareness is what makes the complements surprising and (usually) pleasant.
A kind comment can mean a lot to a person – and personally I think the courage it takes to speak your thoughts makes the complementor just a little braver every time.
5. “Time enjoyed is not time wasted” – ???
Live with intention. Don’t do things half-assed.
Your time is finite so why waste it? This doesn’t mean to spend every second razor focused on some kind of a goal – it means to not sit in front of the TV letting your brain melt.
If you’re going to watch something – do it because you enjoy the show, not because it autoplays. If you’re going to work, work for something you believe in. When you’re moving towards a goal, make sure it’s something you really want. If you’re doing a sport, do it to win.
6. ” A year is a drop in the bucket” – Anonymous Internet Person
A while back someone online wrote a story about how their career blew up in their face and they ended up completely broke. In the end, they wrote that their story was unfortunate and unavoidable, but that they were blessed to have hit rock bottom while they were young (early 30s) and to have only lost a few years of time.
When you’re young, a year sounds like an eternity and the idea of failing in your 30’s is terrifying. This story serves to remind me that everything that happens in a life is just a tiny piece of a puzzle.
Good things are as important as bad things, and the most important thing is the picture that forms from the sum of your life experiences.
7. Being busy is not a sign of accomplishment -Some article? Idk.
We live in a world where being busy is often glorified. Busy means you’re wanted, needed and doing important things.
Be careful not to let yourself get swept up in artificial busyness. Always take a step back to prioritize things you need to do and things you can do – things you need to worry about and things you’re choosing to worry about.
Often, you’ll find that you have more time and attention than you thought.